Posh Mumsies, remember your baby shower where all of your close family and friends gathered to celebrate you and your unborn child? Remember when everyone said they would be there for you and to simply give them a ring if you needed them? How many of you took them up on their offer? Or were you like me?
I can remember that no matter how badly I was burning for help, I just couldn’t ask for it thinking it would burden that friend or family member. Or furthermore, I would think what exactly did they mean by call me if you needed “anything?” Are there certain things they wouldn’t do?
If your experience was remotely close to mine, you were extremely tired, happy, and irritable all at the same time. Motherhood those first few weeks is a MAJOR adjustment; I try to keep this in mind every time a friend or family member has a baby. I often think of things I needed or would have loved to experience those first weeks/months of motherhood.
When my friend Jasmine (who lives in New York) gave birth to her son Alexander, I thought she could use some pampering so I hired a NYC-based nail tech to do a home visit which included a manicure and pedicure, oh, and it was a total surprise with the help of her boyfriend Lucas (thanks again!). Jasmine called me overwhelmed, expressing how much it meant to have something like that done for her.
So I ask you all, what type of things have you done for that new mother in your life? Or what have you as a mother had done for you that was simple, yet memorable, as a part of your MAJOR adjustment period?
Would you love to help out but not so sure of different things you can do or be there for that new mom/dad/family? Here are a few suggestions:
- Help clean their home– From doing the laundry, dishes, to simply straightening up the house, this will really help mark a few things off of the to-do list and allow the parents to focus on other things .
- Cook/bring some food over– As I shared before, this adjustment period leaves everyone exhausted so eating usually comes from the nearest fast food or take out joint. Having a nice, balanced meal cooked for the family would be a treat!
- Babysit– Whether its holding the newborn for a few hours so the new parents can get some sleep or taking that big brother or sister out of the house for the day, this would be awesome! *Sleepovers are also appreciated*
- Pamper Session– The last thing a mom feels after just giving birth is sexy, believe me. Take mom out to get her hair done, get her nails done or a massage!
- Run errands for the family– The parents may not be able to get out to make those pharmacy, grocery, and dry cleaning trips.
- Pray for her/them– so serious, prayer works. Pray for whatever may be on your heart: strength, rest, sanity, patience, health, guidance, etc : )
All of these things and more will be a blessing to the entire family. I promise they won’t forget these moments when it’s your turn to experience that MAJOR adjustment period after giving birth and bringing home your newborn ; )
Have you done something to help out a new mom or have you had something done for you as a new mom that you will never forget? Share below!!
Lending a helping hand,