Second Time Around

“Every pregnancy is different.”

It didn’t resonate with me just how true the old adage was until I became pregnant with my second child. I think, no, I knew, I was pregnant maybe two weeks after conception. Call me crazy, but I knew that feeling of nausea all too well. I randomly told Mel, “I think I’m pregnant,” he says, “Nah babe, you might just be gassy.” Wait…What?? lol.

Mel and I hadn’t ‘planned’ to have more children until Aria was about four or five years old. Heck, we were even entertaining the idea that if we only had one child, that was totally fine. Obviously, things don’t happen when and how you want them to, they happen when and how they are supposed to. Let’s be real for a second…when we found out we were pregnant for the second time, I can’t say that “excited” was the first word to come to mind–more like, “SURPRISE!” As I was looking at the results of my pregnancy test, Aria was dumping out a chik-fil-a cup of lemonade onto the floor. Are we really ready for this? Two babies? Right now? Life was hitting us at an all-time high. Between work, serious family matters, not to mention that we were in the middle of the home-buying process, and it was the beginning of the holiday season…it really took a while for it to settle in that we were expecting a new baby. There were so many mixed feelings and emotions, but as time went on, of course I began to see that something as big and momentous as this was nothing but a gift from God. I am a firm believer that “If God brings you to it, He will see you through it.” I think bringing a new baby into our lives was the silver lining on the clouds during the personal storms we were going through.

I often found myself wondering, how can I love another baby as much as I love my Ari? When I used to hear people say things like that about their second child, I would shake my head and think, “The same way you loved your first.” My oh my, the tables have turned on me because there I was asking myself that same question, and the answer that I thought was so simple, was anything but. I still don’t have an answer, but I do know that with each passing day I am falling more and more in love with the life forming in my womb.

It’s amazing to me because with Aria’s pregnancy, I may have been borderline obsessive. I was reading every book I could get my hands on, I was in the baby section of every store, and I was googling researching every flutter, leak, and twinge of pain. (Disclaimer: To my Posh & Pregnant Mumsies, please DON’T google your pregnancy issues. My last pregnancy query was, “Eating Tuna Fish During Pregnancy.” After a few clicks I wound up with “…Having a baby with missing limbs and mental disorders.” What? All of this from a Tuna Fish Sandwich?! That’s when I knew I had to stop with the Googling.)  The Second Time Around, I feel a tad bit more relaxed; I’m excited that I’m actually able to enjoy this pregnancy a bit more because its not laced with the first-time jitters and worry. I’m happy to be able to feel the kicks, the growth, and watching my belly move. I didn’t realize just how much I missed being pregnant, being able to rub my tummy, and feeling so connected to the life inside of me. It’s beautiful. I have energy, I feel somewhat “normal,” and I have this cute, basketball baby bump. The icing on the cake:


On April 2nd, two days before Aria’s second birthday, we found out that our second child is (undeniably) a boy. Aria is going to be a BIG SISTER to her little “brudder!” August 16th, 2013 is the date our son is scheduled to make his debut into this world and we couldn’t be more excited!

What we thought was not an “ideal” time for a new baby, turned out to be the perfect time. We are now living in our new home, our children will be close in age, and it almost feels like our little family is complete.

I know I said it before, but I have to say it again. If God brings you to it, He will see you through it. Not only did he bring us through our personal storms that we were going through at that time, He even gave us a rainbow complete with a pot of gold at the end.

Love, Hugs, and We’rehavingababyitsaBOY,


33 responses to “Second Time Around

  1. CONGRATS!!!! That is so AMAZING… Boys are so sweet you will instantly fall in LOVE with your new bundle of Joy. Boys and girls are very different and you will realize that almost immediately… If you thought your life changed with Aria, get ready because two under two will be sooooooo much FUN!!!!!

    • Hey Stephanie! I can’t wait! Aria is such a Daddy’s girl so I’m banking one this being a momma’s boy lol. Hopefully we can get Aria on this potty training bandwagon because two in DIAPERS is not the business lol.

  2. YOU JUST MADE ME SHOUT AT MY DESK, NOW I’M IN TEARS (NOT PREGNANT) JUST A WITNESS. I went through the same thing with my second child. TODAY I can honestly say, my SURPRISE pregnancy was a gift sent from GOD. He brought so much joy to us, my husbands twin.

  3. Congradulations! I currently have the same thoughts about wondering what it would be like to have another baby since my 5-year-old is begging me for a sibling (even going as far as yelling at my stomach for God to put a “little sister” in there lol). I’m sure you will adjust to your new bundle of joy and congrats on your new home as well. Best wishes to you and your family!!

  4. Okay Ericka i have to admit tears just came to my eyes reading this. Well put together. Honestly i cant wait for the other addition to the family he really is going to be rotten…lol

  5. Awe!!! Congratulations!!! I got a little emotional reading this post, I think I also got a little bit of baby fever! Uh-oh!!! 😉

  6. Very endearing post, Sis! As I continue to watch the many stages of your belly transform and augment in all its growth, the reality that I am going to be an Auntie “a second time around” (and with a nephew at that!) is becoming more and more surreal. While I greatly anticipate his arrival, it is no secret that he will have some steep competition on his hands! Lol. Aria is truly *A Remarkable Individual At-large* and one who never ceases to amaze me. Even still, my love runs equally deep and my compassion is never-ending for both. I am truly proud of you and Mel for all of the accomplishments you have attained over the years and the limitless blessings that have and continue to flourish your way. Aria is a genuine product of your dexterity and strength, and I have no doubt that the same will be true for the angelic baby-boy-to-be! 🙂
    Love & Blessings,

  7. Ericka, This was very well written! I read alot and I’m so inclined to read, absorb, and walk away from articles, but you deserve a kudos! …and most definitely a Congratulations! Stay blessed.

  8. Congrats baby! I know having aria is beyond amazing but I’m soooooo excited you’re having a little boy. I know she’s going to be a great big sister and I can’t wait to see his cute face. 🙂 I have I list of names if you need ideas! Congrats again!xx

    • Thank you so much Jasmine! I’m really excited to have a little boy! He will be the first boy on my side of the family and I know he is going to be so spoiled! Aria is truly a daddy’s girl, so I’m hoping he is all about mommy! 🙂 We are definitely taking ALL suggestions for names…we don’t have anything in mind yet!

  9. Thank you for sharing this, it was truly touching to read! Congratulations on your soon to come baby boy! Love the pictures by the way, Aria will be a great big Sissy ❤

  10. Congrats Ericka!!!! And guess what??!!! Leilani is going to be a big sister too!!!! I wasn’t surprised, more shocked than ever that another baby was coming. My mom said, ” Uh oh! I remember whn I had you and Ericka was coming soon after you!” Lol. But anyways, congrats on the baby boy. Aria is going to be super excited! As will you!

  11. Yaaaaay, I love how Aria revealed the sex… I was on the edge of my seat. Yes, Google and pregnancy does not mix.. I was in the ER every other search! LOL! Crongrats chica

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